Reviving Passion

Are you so comfortable in your relationship that your significant other feels like your best friend and roommate but not your passionate lover? 

Long term stable relationships provide us with a sense of safety and contentment. However, what we gain in stability we often give up in intensity and passion. Why is this?

The longer we are invested in a relationship, the fewer risks we tend to take because we have more to lose. We may be more cautious in how we interact when we have established patterns in our long-term relationships. The more we tell ourselves we know what to expect, the less room there is for the excitement that can come with uncertainty.

You and your partner can bring more passion into your relationship if you’ll take a few risks. Recognize and appreciate that you are two unique individuals, regardless of how well you may function together as a single unit. Acknowledge to yourself that everything in life is uncertain and temporary. This leaves space for gratitude rather than expectations and resentments. This also leaves space to now be curious about what you don’t know rather than afraid of uncertainty. Challenge yourself to grow and allow your partner to discover more about who you are. Consider disrupting your patterns and routines to have new experiences together. Remember what an incredible human your partner is, and feel more deeply the desire you have to keep choosing this life together.