Boundaries Are Sexy

Do you know what is sexy about setting boundaries? Imagine if both partners know and express what they do and don’t want. How would those conversations improve your sexual experiences?

By telling your partner where your sexual boundaries are, you create the space within which to explore what you both find erotic. If you are both clear about the parameters, you can safely relax into discovery, letting go of any worry about whether what you want is okay with your partner. 

Your partner may be turned on by your confidence in your clarity both about what you desire and about what is not a part of your sexual self. No one needs to be a caretaker in your sexual relationship when both people trust each other to be able to say no to anything they do not want. 

Showing respect for your partner’s boundaries is also a turn on. Your partner can feel understood and cared for when you consistently value how they want to be touched and talked to. If your partner can trust you to not push their boundaries, they are more likely to be able to let their guard down and focus on what they would enjoy.

You can then both honestly express what you desire and co-create experiences you both find fulfilling. You’ve created a sacred sexual arena in which to play.

When you can both say no, your yes is hot!